X Marks the Spot, Dot Dot Dot to Help Sooth Tantrums

Ok, Mama, tell me if you are with me on this- you have children in your household that tantrum and can’t seem to calm down once they “go there”.  I will be honest here, I do have children that “go there.” To stay sane, I needed to figure out how to steer them back to reality.

I’m very lucky to have active boys in my life who keep me on my feet, both of whom are strong willed and have strong personalities.  They work hard and play harder, which means their emotions are extreme. 

Nolan specifically can be very happy and lovey dovey one minute and the next I’ll see fire in his eyes as his head starts spinning.  Jackson was very similar when he was Nolan’s age so I know to be cautious when Nolan is hungry, has to go to the bathroom or is tired.  But despite my best planning, the 4 year old irrational tantrums still tornado through the house in full swing. 

I wanted, I NEEDED,  to come up with a way to help Nolan turn from poltergeist to his sweet 4 year old self. He responds very well with touch and hugs but the game X Marks the Spot on his back really calms him down…99% of the time. 

The song goes like this:

X marks the spot (draw an X on back)

Dot, dot, dot (make 3 dots on back going up or down)

Spiders crawling up your back, spiders crawling down your back (walk fingers up and down back)

Circle and a dot (draw a circle on back with a dot in the middle)

Dot, dot, dot (make 3 dots on back going up or down)

Snakes crawling up your back, Snacks crawling down your back (make S shapes up and down back)

Circle and a dot (draw a circle on back with a dot in the middle)

Repeat if necessary.  Let me know if it works for you as well as it does for Nolan and me.